I must be retarded.
I knew this would eventually happen. Given my brilliant track record of choosing men, it was inevitable that this one would eventually quit his job and move in with me. Why not! That's what they ALL do after a while.
The kicker is, what kind of mongoloid quits a decent job in this economy? You 'couldn't stand it anymore'? You know what I can't stand? Being the SOLE BREADWINNER for myself and apparently the grown man I've now fucking adopted.
You know, if I wanted to raise a fucking kid, I would HAVE ONE. I am tired of dating a guy for a year or so and then having them bumrush into my house with all their shit and announce they are unemployed and crashing with me now.
Hey asshole, I can't afford to support us both, and frankly I don't want you living with me. But the fact is, after 2 years together I'm an asshole if I don't let you move in. After 2 years, it's time. People start asking you where you're going with it, when is he moving in, are you guys getting married? It's the whole shit or get off the pot routine, and I don't appreciate it.
And men know it, too. They know all they have to do is get a year or two under the belt and they can quit the jobs, move outta mom's house and into yours, and sit around watching movies and dicking around on craigslist all night, sleeping all day, and you will not do shit. You won't, because you have two years with the guy, it's expected that you guys move in together. You won't, because after two years you feel obligated to the guy, responsible for him. You won't do anything because two years is a lot of time to invest.
You won't do anything except get progressively more resentful that you are now feeding, cleaning up after, sheltering an overgrown teenager on an endless summer break who, after you make his dinner, clean up his fucking messes, do his laundry, and give him his allowance, wants to have sex with you.
Fuck you. Get a fucking job!
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Ditch your bf. No matter how great he is in bed or how often he calls you pretty, a baby is not a bf. Go on eHarmony, pay 60 measly bucks, and you'll find hundreds of people on the same maturity level as you. I found my bf there, and he's the most noble man I've ever met. You don't just bump into people with character on the street. You have to seek them out.
Dump his ass. :)
wow. sounds just like my boyfriend. he got me pregnant and now we're living in my house and i can't stand it. yay me for getting to take care of two kids! one thats little and one that's old.
Sounds like my boyfriend to a tee. Except he didn't even have a decent job and he quit it and can't find another one. Like hello, watch the news at all? But instead he's hanging out at the pool with his buddies yesterday and wasting his time on the phone, and hasn't really found anything. He's not moving in with me. I guess if he don't make rent he will move back home with momma. Last time I date a younger guy.
wow, sounds like my bf too. and he thinks he's too good to take certain jobs. meanwhile, he lies on the couch all day surfing the web and watching tv. if i ask him about it he looks like he's going to cry. makes me want to strangle him.
Maybe instead of bitching on the internet about him you can help him look and encourage him? Sounds like he's depressed and I can see why.
the problem with trying to ask some of these guys to help is that to them 'asking' is 'nagging'. if i ask my boyfriend to do something around the house he's too tired, too sick, his leg hurts, he has a headache. as if i don't feel like that half the time! heaven help me if i say that to him. i become world no. 1 bitch. i don't know what to do anymore, i feel like a middle aged woman in a 20 year olds body, taking care of an overgrown teenager.
Seriously, I feel the same way. I'm in college, and I was working to support myself and my boyfriend. Says he's looking for a job, but it's been 5 months...no luck. And he can't fathom WHY I'd want certain things done around the apartment or WHY I don't feel like having sex with him when he's been sitting on his ass all day and I come home tired from work and frantic about my plummeting grade point average.
What the FUCK is wrong with you, that you think it's ME being a bitch or being negative when it's YOU that's bringing the negativity into my life? "You're always so negative; try being more positive like me." YOU'RE only positive because you don't have to deal with your own fucking PROBLEMS!
OMG I love this post. A-motherfuckin-men!!!!! It's so exhausting to feel resentful. I do it every day. I love the guy to death, but he's such a lazy, self serving loser. I just feel like dumping his ass is just going to lead me to the next lazy fuck up. Sex isn't even good because I hate his guts DURING sex. It's like taking the garbage to the curb. It's a durty job but it's on the to do list. :-P
Seriously, LMFAO. I love these posts. I'm sorry that we are all lame enough to put ourselves through this shit, but it makes me feel less retarded reading what you girls posted. My bf is way out there. Right along with yours. He's such a lazy princess, that's what I call him. He calls me a bitch and it used to upset me, but 5 years of his bullshit , Call me whatever you want. He should stick with the dipshit theme cuz that's exactly right. Dipshit for being with a loser....
I understand. Most of my exes were like that. I would pay for them, they'd be lazy one way or another and expect me to motivate them all the time. Why don't you go motivate yourself, you jerk. I mean seriously...
Wow and it get better. I've been doing this for 6 years now. He has never worked for more than 3 months and he always walks out in the middle of a shift. He claims to b trying but it's been 6YEARS!!! Fml
He plays on his computer all day. Of I ask him to do anything around the house he say ok, but I alwas come home from work and nothing has changed and he's sleeping. He can't eve bother to take out my dogs more than twice a day. He bitches about the things I have in my apartment ... I don't even know y I love him anymore. We've been together almost 7. I do love him but this seems more and more hopeless. I have to work so much and be the sole responsible one. I still can't Afford to get into college and I can't affor much else thesedays. Debt and a deadbeat bf. Love it
My boyfriend and I have been together 1 year. I am a single mom (no my kids are not his), I have lupus compounded with seizures and I am going to school full time. The entire year we have been dating I have been supporting him, yea it started off small, can you loan me 50 bucks for my cell phone bill this month honey, that sort of thing. Now he has been living with me and my kids for 6 months. I pay all the bills, take care of my kids and go to school full time and he has turned in 2 job applications in a year. I cant do this anymore, i love him but im fairly sure if he actually loved me he would want to lighten my load not add to it. Im praying for the courage to kick him out and stick to it.
I love your posts. I have just ended up with one of these. I've never had one before and didn't realize what I was getting into.
He's working on his art, which I do believe in, but when once a week or so I want to go out to a (very cheap) dinner and I just notify him I'm putting it on his bill, he's then mopey and kind of ruins my attempt at pretending to have a real date.
It is so infuriating.
"But if I get a job, I'll never work on my art again."
I love him and am also increasingly resentful.
To his helpless attitude:
Fuck you. I do art too, but I make a living. By not getting a job you are valuing your time more than mine. Fuck you. Get some balls and get capable.
"And men know it, too. They know all they have to do is get a year or two under the belt and they can quit the jobs, move outta mom's house and into yours, and sit around watching movies and dicking around on craigslist all night, sleeping all day, and you will not do shit. You won't, because you have two years with the guy, it's expected that you guys move in together. You won't, because after two years you feel obligated to the guy, responsible for him. You won't do anything because two years is a lot of time to invest."
damn, this is so spot-on it hurts. did you ever dump your bf?
i'm intrigued. . .
I dumped every single loser boyfriend I've been with. Yes, it hurts and can be very heartbreaking even if you're doing the dumping. But it's worth it! Please ladies, don't hang on to the trash. Get rid of it!
Oh I dated one of those. He just wouldn't help himself to get it together.
Breaking up after that very, very short relationship was super tough - when guys feel sorry for themselves it's like a war when you break up. It was all my fault, I ruined things and etc. etc. Lets forget any part he played. I felt shit.
But it lasted like, a week tops. The personal space, free time to think, not having someone making me feel inadequate - oh man that was rad.
Good luck ladies, dump 'em if you can. It's hard, I got a friend to sit next to me and I weren't allowed to hang up until it was over. Tough. But a great decision.
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